I am probably the only author who has used a quote from “Chicken Run”, a
very funny movie that’s set in a chicken farm that oddly resembles a World
War II concentration camp.
Many of us spend our lives, or at least parts of them, in self-imposed
prisons. If this is our own doing, why do we not simply decide to release
ourselves? Why not indeed? Unfortunately, many of us believe that we just
have to play the hand we’ve been dealt. Is biography necessarily destiny?
In most cases, we didn’t create the problem, yet we often perpetuate it. How
and why? The prison bars are merely some of the patterns in our
subconscious. These patterns, known as core beliefs, drive most of our
behaviors, attitudes, and emotions. Some of them perform to our advantage,
and some actually work against us. When we self-sabotage, we become aware of
this imprisonment. Any time we notice negative self-talk or doubt our
abilities, we are bumping into those prison bars.
Where and when do these core beliefs originate? Stay with me here. This is
so basic that you might just miss the significance. Until children reach the
age of about seven or eight , their brain waves are so slow that, in a
sense, they are hypnotized. A defensive shield to ward off misguided
influences is not yet in place. This protection, known as the “Critical
Factor,” is built along with the conscious mind, and is fully-functional
around the age of seven.
What about before that age? What are the implications of having no defense?
This early part of a child’s life is known as the “Imprint Phase” of
personality development. This is when the patterns are manufactured.
Whatever a child hears, sees, or experiences is considered 100% valid and
true. It has to be, because the sources are often giants - namely adults.
Patterns that operate against our best interests go hand-in-hand with a
brittle self-esteem. The environments that spawn this condition are often
influenced by parents or caretakers who are perfectionist, or who manipulate
through conditional love. They are the unwitting caretakers who say things
like, “Why can’t you be more like your cousin Jane? She’s always getting
good marks.” Or perhaps, “Your room is so messy. You’re never going to
amount to anything.” These kinds of scenarios inflict incredibly subtle
mental and emotional damage. In essence, the child’s subconscious mind is
being told that it’s flawed; that the child will never succeed and has no
right to be taken seriously. This is the way fragile self-esteem and
limiting beliefs are established.
OK, so how do we transform these patterns? Although there are many ways, I
recommend hypnotherapy. Since the patterns are in the subconscious, you must
address them at that level. A nationally-certified hypnotherapist can get
the belief identified, and initiate a plan for its removal and replacement.
The first step though, is to realize that you might have these unsupportive
patterns that I’ve described here, and to then choose to do something about
them. Your decision will empower you.
And the movie? Ginger, one of the main characters, says, “The fences aren’t
just around the farm, they’re up here in your heads.” Truly fate is a joke.
You can take control of your destiny, despite your biography.